Are you ready?

      
I must say that back when I graduated from college I became quite the scared-y cat. I like to think that I’m not now, but who are we kidding? I still get scared. Once I graduated (circa 2012!) I was kind of lost. I knew what I wanted to do, but had experience in some fields except the field I wanted to go into. And this sense of unpreparedness caused a vast amount of uncertainty. From then on, I tried to always be prepared/equipped for any situation or opportunity; to not go out on a limb until I was ready. So with every opportunity I found myself asking “Am I ready?” or “Am I good enough?” Most times, I told myself I wasn’t.

This led to many questions:
When are we officially ready? How many times can we use this excuse? When are we ready to apply for that dream job? When are we ready to get back out there and start dating again? When are we ready to reconnect with old friends and family? When are we ready to apologize?

The truth? Who knows. But my guess is that if “I’m not ready” has been your excuse for the past 10 times you’ve thought about an opportunity, you’re probably ready. We can not let this idea of not being ready cripple us. We can not let fear and rejection be the reason why we don’t take on challenging new experiences.

And if you need a little inspiration, try thinking of life 2000 years from now. Will people remember that time you went on a horrible date? Or that time you took up acting? Probably not. This might scare you, but to me that’s freedom. No one will know about us or our failures, so why are we so afraid?

The pictures above are from a trip to LA that I made with one of my best friends last year. Aside from getting to adventure around with my bestie, this was a time when I decided to take a chance on someone; to go out on a limb for something that I knew could devastate me. I went into it with a new way of thinking. I told myself I was ready. I was ready, because I wholeheartedly believed that this person/decision would not define me or make me whole. Whatever happened, I would be completely fine.

So what was the result of it all? Nothing. No surprises, no change. It was actually kind of like deja vu. I went out on a limb and guess what? I didn’t break. Giving people second chances, to some, can seem like a waste of time, but not for me. Now I can confidently live knowing whether or not a certain person was meant to be in my life; never having to ask “What if?” And that reassurance is pretty awesome. 

I encourage you to go! Apply for that job! Take a chance! Buy a one way ticket! Take that cutie out on a date! And no matter what happens…remember you’re whole, you’re worthy and even the toughest of times don’t define you. What are we waiting for?

your girl

8 thoughts on “Are you ready?

  1. Thank you Lisa!
    I’m in a particular moment right now and every little step forward is a mystery. I was scared by something and I didn’t know by what exactly.
    Your words are precious 🙂
    xoxo and all the best to you!

      1. Yes, that mystery creates that strange mix of emotions 🙂 I have to take the best part (the excitment) and do a big jump! Have a fab and happy day! 🙂

  2. This is exactly what I needed to read today. Thank you! I’m turning 25 tomorrow and I’m in the mood for some changes. Change scares me, but change is better than being complacent and standing still.

    1. YES. I’m so happy to hear. I turn 25 in June, so I’m not too far behind you. I think this half way to 50 mark is the perfect time for some change. I wish you the best!

  3. Hi, Lisa! I am a last-year student in college, and I must admit that the fear of being graduated sometimes scares the hell out of me. I become so used to the fact that I have to be on my own and not being dependent on my parents anymore, as soon as I go out of college. Until I read this post. I have been afraid and now I know it’s not healthy for me. Thank you for such inspiration!

    1. This makes me so happy to hear! Seriously it made my day. It’s okay to be scared; that’s totally normal. Just know that no matter what everything’s going to work out. It just will! Good luck! Keep me posted on how things turn out. 🙂

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