I must say that back when I graduated from college I became quite the scared-y cat. I like to think that I’m not now, but who are we kidding? I still get scared. Once I graduated (circa 2012!) I was kind of lost. I knew what I wanted to do, but had experience in some fields except the field I wanted to go into. And this sense of unpreparedness caused a vast amount of uncertainty. From then on, I tried to always be prepared/equipped for any situation or opportunity; to not go out on a limb until I was ready. So with every opportunity I found myself asking “Am I ready?” or “Am I good enough?” Most times, I told myself I wasn’t.
This led to many questions:
When are we officially ready? How many times can we use this excuse? When are we ready to apply for that dream job? When are we ready to get back out there and start dating again? When are we ready to reconnect with old friends and family? When are we ready to apologize?
The truth? Who knows. But my guess is that if “I’m not ready” has been your excuse for the past 10 times you’ve thought about an opportunity, you’re probably ready. We can not let this idea of not being ready cripple us. We can not let fear and rejection be the reason why we don’t take on challenging new experiences.
And if you need a little inspiration, try thinking of life 2000 years from now. Will people remember that time you went on a horrible date? Or that time you took up acting? Probably not. This might scare you, but to me that’s freedom. No one will know about us or our failures, so why are we so afraid?
The pictures above are from a trip to LA that I made with one of my best friends last year. Aside from getting to adventure around with my bestie, this was a time when I decided to take a chance on someone; to go out on a limb for something that I knew could devastate me. I went into it with a new way of thinking. I told myself I was ready. I was ready, because I wholeheartedly believed that this person/decision would not define me or make me whole. Whatever happened, I would be completely fine.
So what was the result of it all? Nothing. No surprises, no change. It was actually kind of like deja vu. I went out on a limb and guess what? I didn’t break. Giving people second chances, to some, can seem like a waste of time, but not for me. Now I can confidently live knowing whether or not a certain person was meant to be in my life; never having to ask “What if?” And that reassurance is pretty awesome.
I encourage you to go! Apply for that job! Take a chance! Buy a one way ticket! Take that cutie out on a date! And no matter what happens…remember you’re whole, you’re worthy and even the toughest of times don’t define you. What are we waiting for?